Medically Reviewed by Dr. Shradha Chakhaiyar, MBBS, DGO, MRCOG (London) — Fertility Specialist & Reproductive Surgeon, Shradha IVF & Maternity, Patna

20+ Years of Experience · www.shradhaivf.com

If you have typed this question,” Is infertility a punishment from God?” into your phone late at night, we want you to know two things before anything else. First: you are not the only one. Women ask me this in my clinic in Patna almost every week — quietly, usually with their eyes down, usually after everyone else has finished talking. Second, and I want to say this as clearly as we can: your struggle to conceive is not a punishment. It is not a debt from a past life. It is not something you have done wrong. I am a doctor, not a priest, and I will not pretend to speak for God. But I have spent more than twenty years with the bodies of women who ask this question — and I can tell you what I have actually found.

Difficulty conceiving is not a punishment, a curse, or the result of karma — it is a medical condition, and in the large majority of cases it has an identifiable and treatable cause. Faith can be a real source of strength during this time, and seeking medical help is not a failure of faith. Around 15–20% of Indian couples face infertility, and male factors account for 40–50% of cases. If you have been trying for 12 months (or 6 months if you are over 35), the most useful next step is a simple evaluation of both partners.

15–20%Of Indian couples face this
40–50%Of cases involve the husband
MostCauses are findable
Not a punishmentThis is a medical condition

Is Infertility a Punishment from God?

No, infertility is not a punishment from God. I want to answer this plainly, because I think you have been waiting a long time for someone to say it plainly.

Difficulty conceiving is a medical condition. It happens to women who pray every day and to women who never pray. It happens to the kindest people I have ever met. In my clinic, I have seen a blocked fallopian tube, a low sperm count, an untreated thyroid problem, a small fibroid, an ovulation disorder — and in almost every case, when we finally found the cause, it was something physical, something explainable, and very often something we could treat. Not once in twenty years have I found a moral cause.

Around 15–20% of couples in India face infertility. That is millions of people. If this were a punishment, it would be a strangely indiscriminate one.

Why Do So Many Women Blame Themselves for Not Conceiving?

Many women blame themselves for infertility, because they have been taught to — often by people who love them.

In our society, when a couple does not conceive, the questions fall on the woman first. The whispers land on her. The remedies are suggested to her. And she absorbs it, until she is lying awake, wondering what she did to deserve this.

So let me put a fact in front of that feeling: male factors account for 40–50% of infertility cases. Close to half. Yet in my clinic, again and again, a woman arrives alone, having already been tested and treated and prayed over for two or three years — and her husband has never had a simple semen analysis. That is not fate. That is a diagnostic failure, and it costs a couple of years.

This is why we ask both partners to come to the first consultation together. Not to assign blame — but to lift it. (Our guide on male infertility explains this side more fully.)

Is Seeking Infertility Treatment a Failure of Faith?

This is the question I am asked most gently, and most often, and it deserves a real answer.

I have never believed that faith and medicine are opponents. When you fall ill with a fever, you pray — and you also take the medicine. Nobody calls that a failure of faith. Nobody says the medicine insulted God. Your fertility deserves the same sense.

Praying and getting tested are not two competing options. You can do both. Most of my patients do. Many of them keep their faith through the entire journey, and it carries them through the difficult days better than anything I can prescribe. What I gently ask is only this: don’t let the belief that you must wait for a blessing stop you from finding out whether there is something we could fix. Coming to a doctor is not giving up on God. It is using the knowledge and the hands that exist in the world.

Who Should You Be Careful of Right Now When You Fail to Conceive?

I want to say this carefully, because I do not wish to disrespect anyone’s faith or anyone’s tradition. Prayer, community, and ritual bring genuine comfort, and I would never ask you to give that up.

But please be careful of anyone who charges you money and promises you a child. Be careful of anyone who tells you that your test results don’t matter, that a treatment cannot work because of something in your chart, or that the answer is only a payment away. I have met couples who spent years and their savings this way, and arrived in my clinic later — sometimes too late for options that would have been open to them earlier.

A trustworthy person will never guarantee you a baby. Not a priest, and not a doctor — including me. I cannot promise you a child. What I can promise is that we will look properly, tell you the truth, and give you the best chance that medicine allows.

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What Are the Real Reasons Conception Gets Delayed?

Here is what we actually find, when we look. Delay almost always has a cause — and the cause is physical:

Where the issue sitsWhat we commonly find
OvulationPCOS, thyroid problems, or hormonal imbalance meaning an egg isn’t released regularly
Fallopian tubesBlockage or damage — often from an old, untreated infection — so egg and sperm never meet
The husbandLow sperm count, poor motility, or abnormal shape — the cause in 40–50% of cases
The uterusFibroids, polyps, adhesions, or a lining that isn’t developing well
AgeA natural decline in egg quality and number — the one factor none of us can slow down
TimingSometimes simply not knowing the fertile window — genuinely common, and easily fixed
UnexplainedIn some couples, tests come back normal and no cause is found — and even then, treatment often works

Notice something about that list: almost every line is a thing we can look for with a simple test. An ultrasound. A blood test. A semen analysis. These are not frightening or expensive procedures, and they can be done in a single visit. (You can read more in our guides on the causes of infertility, unexplained infertility, and ovulation, and why pregnancy may still not happen.)

What Are the Actual Chances of This Being Treatable?

Better than most people in Bihar have been led to believe — and this is the belief I most want to change.

The vast majority of infertility cases have an identifiable cause and a treatable pathway. Many couples never need IVF at all: sometimes the answer is treating a thyroid problem, correcting ovulation, clearing an infection, removing a small fibroid, or simply understanding the fertile window properly. When more help is needed, treatments like IUI, IVF, and ICSI exist — and they exist here, in Patna. You do not have to travel to Delhi or Mumbai.

What genuinely lowers your chances is not karma. It is time. Couples in Bihar often try for two to five years before seeing a specialist — because of stigma, because of shame, because someone told them to wait. Those years are the single most expensive thing in this entire journey, because age is the one thing no treatment can give back. (More on that in how age affects fertility.)

What Should You Do Next to Get Pregnant?

Nothing dramatic. Just one honest step:

  • If you have been trying for 12 months (or 6 months if you are over 35), see a fertility specialist.
  • Go together. Both of you. A semen analysis in the first week, not the third year.
  • Bring any reports you have, however old.
  • Ask questions. You are allowed to. A good doctor will explain, not rush you.

You are not agreeing to IVF by walking through a door. You are agreeing to find out. That is all. (If it helps, here’s how to prepare for a first consultation.)

A Note from Dr. Shradha, Patna

🇮🇳 Dr. Shradha Chakhaiyar, MRCOG (London)“I have sat with hundreds of women who believed, deep down, that they were being punished. Some had been told so. Some had simply concluded it in the silence, because nobody gave them a better explanation. I want to be the one who gives them a better explanation. Keep your faith — please keep it, it will hold you on the hard days. But let me also look. Let me check your hormones, your tubes, your uterus, and your husband’s report. Almost every time, there is something to find, and very often, something to do about it. You have carried this blame long enough. Come and let us put it down, and look at the facts together. The first consultation is free — and no one here will ever make you feel ashamed.”

You Have Carried This Long Enough. Let’s Just Look.

No judgement, no shame, and no promises we can’t keep. Dr. Shradha will examine both of you honestly and tell you what she finds. Coming in doesn’t commit you to anything — it just means you’ll finally know. The first consultation is free.

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FAQs on Is Infertility a Punishment from God

No. Infertility is a medical condition, not a moral one. It affects an estimated 15–20% of Indian couples, regardless of how they live or what they believe. In the large majority of cases there is an identifiable physical cause — such as ovulation, tubal, sperm, or uterine issues — and often a treatable one.

There is no medical basis for this. Difficulty conceiving comes from physical, diagnosable causes — hormonal imbalance, blocked tubes, sperm problems, fibroids, age. Believing it is a karmic debt causes real harm, because it leads couples to wait and pray instead of getting tested, and time is the one thing treatment cannot recover.

Most people find that faith and medicine sit together comfortably. Just as you would pray during an illness and also take medicine, you can hold your faith and still be evaluated and treated. Seeking medical help is not a failure of faith — it is using the knowledge available in the world.

Almost always for a physical, findable reason: an ovulation disorder like PCOS, a thyroid problem, blocked fallopian tubes, low sperm count or motility, fibroids, a lining issue, age, or simply mistimed intercourse. A basic evaluation of both partners usually identifies the cause within one or two visits.

Prayer can be a genuine source of strength, comfort, and calm during a hard journey, and many patients find it sustains them. But it cannot unblock a fallopian tube or correct a sperm problem. The safest path is to keep your faith and also get properly evaluated — the two are not in conflict.

In most cases, yes. Many couples never need IVF at all — treating a thyroid issue, correcting ovulation, clearing an infection, or removing a fibroid is sometimes enough. When more help is needed, IUI, IVF, and ICSI are available, including here in Patna. The biggest obstacle is usually delay, not the condition itself.